Recently Engaged? The First 10 Things to Do After Saying Yes
Congratulations—you’re engaged!
After the excitement, celebrations, ring photos and endless “Have you picked a date yet?” questions, reality usually sets in:
Where do we even start planning a wedding?
If you're newly engaged, you don't need to plan your entire wedding this week. But there are a few decisions that are worth making early—especially if you're hoping to get married during a popular season or have your heart set on a particular wedding venue.
As a Vero Beach wedding venue that has helped hundreds of couples celebrate their weddings, we've learned a lot about what makes the planning process easier.
Here are the first 10 things to do after getting engaged.
1. Enjoy Being Engaged
Before opening spreadsheets, comparing vendors and building Pinterest boards, give yourselves a little time to enjoy this moment.
Getting engaged is a milestone all by itself.
Celebrate together. Tell your families. Take the ring pictures. Pop the champagne. Go out to dinner.
There will be plenty of time for wedding planning.
And here's something important to remember from the very beginning:
Your wedding doesn't need to look like anyone else's.
The goal isn't to create the perfect Pinterest wedding.
It's to create a day that feels like the two of you.
2. Talk About the Wedding You Actually Want
Before you start touring wedding venues, sit down together and talk about the overall experience you imagine.
Do you picture an outdoor ceremony?
A romantic waterfront wedding?
A large celebration with everyone you know?
Something smaller and more intimate?
A formal reception?
A relaxed Florida wedding?
A destination-style weekend where your guests can enjoy the beach and everything Vero Beach has to offer?
You don't need to choose flowers or table linens yet.
Think bigger.
How do you want your wedding to feel?
Knowing that will make choosing your venue much easier.
3. Create a Preliminary Wedding Budget
You don't need to know exactly what everything costs yet.
You do need a general idea of what you're comfortable spending.
Talk about your overall budget and whether anyone else will be contributing.
Then begin researching the major wedding expenses, including:
Wedding venue
Catering
Photography and videography
Entertainment
Flowers and décor
Wedding attire
Hair and makeup
Transportation
Cake and desserts
Invitations and stationery
Your venue and catering are often significant parts of the wedding budget, so understanding what's included with each venue is extremely important.
A venue with a lower starting price isn't necessarily less expensive once you add rentals, tables, chairs, coordination, setup, cleanup and other necessities.
Compare what's included—not just the starting price.
4. Start Your Guest List
You don't need a final seating chart.
You do need an estimated guest count.
Start with everyone you'd ideally like to invite and create a preliminary number.
Why do this so early?
Because your guest count affects almost everything—especially your venue.
There's no point falling in love with a wedding venue designed for 100 guests if you're planning to invite 175.
Having an approximate guest count before scheduling venue tours will help you focus on spaces that actually work for your wedding.
5. Choose a Wedding Location and General Time of Year
You don't necessarily need an exact date before touring venues.
In fact, being flexible with your date can sometimes give you more options.
Instead, start by deciding:
Where do we want to get married?
And:
What time of year do we prefer?
For couples considering a Florida wedding, Vero Beach offers a beautiful combination of beaches, hotels, restaurants, outdoor activities and that relaxed coastal atmosphere that makes a wedding weekend feel like a destination—even for couples who already live nearby.
If you're searching for Vero Beach wedding venues, Treasure Coast wedding venues, Port St. Lucie wedding venues, Fort Pierce wedding venues or wedding venues near Sebastian, don't be afraid to expand your search.
Your perfect venue may be a short drive outside the city you originally had in mind.
6. Start Touring Wedding Venues
This is one of the first major wedding-planning decisions we recommend making.
Why?
Because your wedding venue affects so many other decisions.
Your venue can determine your:
Wedding date
Guest capacity
Ceremony location
Reception location
Wedding style
Décor needs
Rental needs
Vendor requirements
Rain plan
Photography locations
Timeline
And popular Florida wedding venues can book well in advance.
Start by creating a shortlist of venues that fit your approximate guest count, budget, preferred location and wedding style.
Then schedule tours.
Photos are important—but don't choose your wedding venue from Instagram alone.
Go experience it.
7. Ask the Right Questions During Your Venue Tours
When touring wedding venues, don't only ask about price and availability.
Ask what you're actually receiving.
Some important questions include:
What's included in the wedding package?
Are tables and chairs included?
Is wedding coordination available?
Where do the bride and groom get ready?
What happens if it rains?
Is there an indoor reception option?
Are there covered outdoor areas?
How much time do we have at the venue?
When can vendors arrive?
Can we have our rehearsal here?
Can we host our rehearsal dinner here?
Are there restrictions on vendors?
Who handles setup and cleanup?
Where can we take wedding photographs?
How many weddings does the venue host in one weekend?
And don't forget one of the most important questions:
Who will we actually be communicating with throughout the planning process?
Customer service matters long before your wedding day arrives.
8. Read the Reviews Before You Book
Wedding venue reviews are one of the most valuable planning tools you have.
Don't just look at the star rating.
Read the reviews.
Pay attention to what couples repeatedly mention.
Was communication easy?
Did the venue respond quickly?
Was the team organized?
Did couples feel supported?
How did the venue handle unexpected situations?
Was the wedding day stressful—or did the couple feel like they could actually enjoy it?
At The Rustica Wedding Venue in Vero Beach, we're incredibly proud to have earned 230+ five-star reviews.
For us, those reviews mean much more than a number.
They represent couples and families who trusted us with one of the biggest days of their lives.
When you're comparing wedding venues, beautiful pictures can show you the property.
Reviews tell you about the experience.
9. Book Your Venue—Then Your Priority Vendors
Once you've chosen your venue and officially secured your wedding date, the rest of your planning can begin falling into place.
Some vendors can only take one wedding per day, so if you have a photographer, videographer, DJ or entertainment company you absolutely love, contact them early.
Your priority list may include:
Photographer
Videographer
DJ or band
Wedding planner or coordinator
Caterer
Florist
Hair and makeup artists
You don't need to book everyone at once.
Start with the vendors who are most important to you and those whose availability is limited.
10. Then Have Some Fun With It
Once your date and venue are secured, wedding planning starts becoming a lot more fun.
Now you can start thinking about:
Your wedding colors
Flowers
Décor
Wedding dress shopping
Bridesmaid dresses
Save-the-dates
Engagement photos
Wedding website
Signature cocktails
Cake and desserts
Music
Personal details
Create the Pinterest boards.
Save the Instagram posts.
Start imagining what your reception will look like.
But don't feel like you need to incorporate every wedding trend you see.
Some of our favorite weddings at The Rustica have been the ones where couples included completely unexpected details that represented them.
Those are the things guests remember.
Newly Engaged and Searching for a Wedding Venue in Vero Beach?
If you're at the beginning of wedding planning and searching for a Vero Beach wedding venue, we'd love to introduce you to The Rustica.
Located in Vero Beach, Florida, The Rustica combines beautiful outdoor spaces with the comfort of an indoor, air-conditioned reception venue.
Couples can enjoy a waterfront wedding ceremony, take photographs on our signature bridge and throughout the property, celebrate with guests during cocktail hour, and then continue the evening inside—all in one location.
We also believe strongly in something you won't necessarily see in wedding photographs:
Customer service.
With 230+ five-star reviews, we're incredibly proud of the experience our couples have shared about The Rustica.
From the first venue tour through the planning process and wedding day, our goal is for our couples to feel supported, excited and confident about where they've chosen to get married.
Because you're not simply choosing a building.
You're choosing the people you're trusting with your wedding day.
Start Your Wedding Planning at The Rustica
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…come experience The Rustica for yourself.
Walk across the bridge.
See the waterfront ceremony location.
Explore the indoor reception space.
Tour the getting-ready areas.
Imagine your flowers, tables and décor.
And picture the people you love celebrating with you.
Your first wedding-planning decision doesn't have to be complicated.
Find the person you want to spend your life with. Say yes. Then find the place where you can't wait to say “I do.”
We'd love for that place to be The Rustica Wedding Venue in Vero Beach, Florida.
